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Why are the you are the problem comments so common on Lemmy? (blackneon.net)
submitted 9 months ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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I read some people who vent on their posts or talk about problems they face in life and the replies they get is, no you are the problem, fuck you.

On Reddit, the only thing that is close to this is when women complain about their boyfriends, they got told to leave them, whatever is her complaint about.

Any explanation?

Disclaimer: I am not talking about my own experiences here, but rather what I read in other posts, my observations could be wrong.

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[–] 27 points 9 months ago (2 children)

People seem to have an allergy to personal responsibility and taking initiative. Perhaps it IS their fault? Or at least, they're the people in the best position to fix things?

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  • [–] 12 points 9 months ago

    Seconding this. In most situations, the only thing you can change is yourself. If you want to improve things, you've got to do the work. Sometimes people think responsibility is the same thing as fault or blame, but, again, most of the time the person able to fix a bad situation won't be the one who caused it.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

    yep.

    IME people who embrace personal responsibility generally don't whine/complain that much. those who do so pathologically... absolutely refuse to take responsibility for themselves and angry/frustrated that other people won't do it for them.

    and the pathological people will hate anyone who calls them out. they will seek people who tell them it isn't their fault and how they are perfect as they are.

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