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What is your opinion on men that make use of sex worker services? (lemmy.ml)
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[–] 31 points 3 years ago (4 children)

IMO the more that money is involved in anything, the less actually voluntary it is, because we need money to live and plenty of people don't have a lot of options for making money. With sex it's really important for everything to be actually consensual, but paying for it makes that ambiguous, they can't really know, so I see it as creepy and unethical.

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  • [–] 10 points 3 years ago

    Right, if you pay to have sex with a person that's utterly destitute, completely desperate, and has no other options, is that REALLY consensual?

    There are plenty of examples of sex workers that are NOT in that situation, but there are just as many (I would guess more) examples of people that ARE in that situation.

    I'd be curious to see whether sex workers increase/decrease in a region that implements a universal basic income.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    I've known people who are sex workers and they're some of the most talented and intelligent people I've ever met. Replace sex-worker with marketing and that's who they are. There's nothing involuntary about what they do. Unless you consider that my work is non-consensual because I don't want to do it if I could just survive without it.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 years ago

    Unless you consider that my work is non-consensual because I don’t want to do it if I could just survive without it.

    Yeah, pretty much, it's one of the worst things about our society and needs fixing in general. It's just potentially extra bad when sex is involved because of its emotional, cultural, etc. significance. I don't mean to suggest all sex workers are desperate victims, I'm sure some of them are well off, have options, and are doing it because they want to, but they all have a business incentive to try to appear that way, so someone looking to hire them can't really be confident what they are doing isn't ultimately exploitation.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 years ago

    I couldn't really pin down exactly what my problem with sex work was until reading this. I try not to judge, but I've always found it problematic and I do find myself feeling like it shouldn't have to be a thing. Anecdotally, every person I've interacted with who brought the topic up always joked about wanting to do it just for the money.

    The fact that it's paid for as a service makes it inherently open to exploitation, and thus unethical.

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