It’s fundamentally different for humanity. A bug has sex, shits out a thousand eggs, and then dies by flying into a rock moving at speed. A monkey cares for its young for a year. Gorillas are considered crazy for having a three year long rearing process. And then there are humans with fucking 12 years, a sixth of your life at absolute minimum for our children to avoid dying by just existing in society. Preganancy historically, and presently, killing leagues of women certainly doesn’t dissuade the careful choice. Sex has only very recently, broadly speaking, become a safe diversion, and human culture is slow to adapt.

Yeah, to serve as a counter example, I didn't have sex until 24, it was alright, nothing amazing, but I felt good about it overall. Then that relationship fell apart because I had no idea how to relationship and ended up pretty needy and I didn't have sex again until 3 years later. Then it was like the floodgates opened, had a casual relationship that I also wasn't really ready for but learned a lot about myself during, and then fooled around with a swinger couple for a little while before ending up in my own open relationship and had a ton of fun with that.

Then, after that relationship ended, I had a bit of a manwhore phase, and from that, my guess is that these guys lowered their standards to get laid because those were the times when I'd walk away from a sexual experience not feeling great about it. The sex itself would be fine, but that post-nut clarity would hit hard and I'd just want to get away and be alone. Contrast that to when I was actually attracted to my partner, when I'd be happy to just spend more time with them, cuddling or going for another round, or even just existing in the same space as them.