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Anon hires a goth chick (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 1 year ago by [M] to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 5 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'm also bad at articulating my point, so this is on me.

Friends are very important and having a career does not necessarily mean "Surrendering to the capitalist machine". (For example, running a union, contributing to a socialist group, growing a militia, etc.)

Also having friends and family is important. I guess to me, wanting sex/romance feels so manufactured. Maybe that's the ace half of me talking. I really don't know.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago

    You are not wrong to not care about sex and romantic relationships. If that is how you are happy. And I mean truly happy. Not lying to yourself because the grapes are sour anyways. Then there is nothing wrong with it. We are all wired In different way and enjoy different things.

    Having said that, you are the minority.

    Humans by design seek sex and romantic intimacy. The vast majority of people place a lot of importance on it. It's not just about the physical act or the pleasure of it, it's the intimacy, the trust, the closeness. It's being able to be truly exposed and vulnerable, and having your partner be just as exposed and vulnerable. It's being able to give pleasure and accept pleasure. Our brains become flooded with feel good chemicals. Humans are typically wired to want sex.

    My point is, no one should judge you or look down on you for living the way you want. Some people will, but they are ass hats and you should ignore them. But In the same way you should understand that most people get A LOT out of sex, especially good sex.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago*

    I guess to me, wanting sex/romance feels so manufactured.

    I get what you mean. I guess everybody's sexual desires are different. To me, it's an artform.

    Sexuality, if done right, connects people. People want to impress their crush so they come up with creative ideas, and that can turn into an artform. Also it can connect people in more intimate ways than is possible during work-related settings.

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