It's not fun interacting with them when they often want to engage in ad hominems. This is why I have no interest in the tankie triad.
I disagree with your framing. I think you're being dishonest in your framing on what caused the mod actions.
I can't count how many times someone on or off blahaj tried to explain that Dragonrider's trolling, encouraging other users to suicide, things like that, were the core of the issue. If you really want to join Ada in pretending that there's a whole Lemmy population that's just frothing at the mouth to dictate to other people what pronouns they can and can't use, and that was what got them heated up about Dragonrider and nothing about any of the other stuff, I won't stop you. I started to dig up old messages to put together a timeline, but then I realized I don't care and I think the issue is pretty clear enough already.
At the end of the day we and Ada are beholden to our respective users, and as it turns out, they think those were the right choices.
This was pretty much my point. lemmy.ml and Hexbear love how their admins behave, and that's all the admins feel like they need to know. My point was that (a) you're starting to operate along the same lines, it looks like, and (b) that's not always a good thing.
I want to point out however that all this brouhaha is over a 7days ban.
Personally, I don't care about the ban itself. I actually agree with you that PugJesus making a whole community to whine about how unfair it is is kind of childish. I care more about the bullying and fact-free mentality, that big thread with people making up nonsense about the target of the day.