It's not fun interacting with them when they often want to engage in ad hominems. This is why I have no interest in the tankie triad.
SoftestSapphic is trans. She was upset about a troll coming into her community and making fun of her identity in a particularly cruel way (likening it to fantasy creatures or a kids' game or something), and then further upset by the mods of blahaj defending the troll and banning people who criticized them. That's why she's angry about it. Honestly, I don't blame her, it makes perfect sense to me.
Ada said that she defended Dragonrider for quite a long time even after people started telling her they were encouraging people to self-harm and other objectively horrible behavior, because she felt bad because they were getting "harassed." Of course, when they did something much more minor to Ada, she suddenly felt they were toxic and had to go.
I don't want to have this whole ridiculous debate again. I feel stupid even touching on it to this extent, I just wanted to give you that relevant context. You're literally celebrating the dbzer0 admins for banning a trans person for trying to voice her objection to the performative and stupid way that trans issues are handled in some segments of Lemmy. In my world, she should be allowed to say that. In yours and dbzer0's, apparently she should not, because db0 is the arbiter of whether trans issues are being handled correctly, and she is not, and she needs to obey their instructions for what she can and can't speak up on.
Also, the "low opinions" db0 is talking about there were:
I think he’s an obnoxious dickhead
I remember his username and him being a twat
He’s a genocide-supporting Zionist radlib
a goddam stalker
an angry turbolib who blames the left (and Eugene in particular, for some reason) for the pathetic failure of the corporate-c**k-sucking Democrats
Do you think those are direct personal insults, which should be handled differently than for example criticism of an instance's policies or for someone's specific actions? Good! So do I. Because db0 apparently has some six inch thick rose-colored glasses that get applied to any action that is done by "our good people," though, they are just "low opinions."
Honestly I thought you were smart and well-meaning, just kind of focused on growth of the community and creating positive things. The more I am looking into how dbzer0 does things, the more I think lumping them in with the tankie instances with their admin behavior fits pretty well, and I have no idea why you're bending over backwards so far to defend them.