Thanks, I got the humor, what I'm wondering about is what's the predominant reason people in general object to polygamy, regardless of whether it's Islam or Mormons or whatever.

That wasn't the ask though? They were asking about polygamy in general...

If everyone involved consents, should that be anyone else's business?

This. When I was poly my friends and fam were cool with it, but they're not religious. Every religious person I knew who found out was not too pleased with me.

It's not the multiple partners that are a problem in my opinion (You do you. Polyamory is not for me, but no hate), it's the many-to-one relationships. Even in cases where an immoral power dynamic doesn't exist, you're still setting up for societal shenanigans if it's consistently many women to men, or vice versa, which seems prudent to avoid.

That being said, monogamy in a legal sense has probably only persisted so long because involving more than 2 people would be a massive headache for the courts lol

Probably only works in countries where one "partner" has more rights than others.

"one to cook and one to clean" is one of the "joke-y" sayings I heard

Mormons used to (some still do) practice polygamy and we had just as much, if not more of a problem with their practices as we do with "foreigners".

From my perspective as another polyamorous person, I think polygamy is kinda fucked up, at least in the ways it manifests today. It's an inequitable power dynamic that relies on the exploitation of women. I'm all about subversion and defiance of hierarchies. Polygamy reinforces those hierarchies

You can oppose both polygamist or incestuous marriage if it's in a context of religious and sexist oppression, which tend to be the case in most instances of those two types of marriages.

I wouldn't have complains about polyamory incestuous marriage of free people. But sadly most of practical cases are not like that.

I generally agree with you, but I've heard reasonable arguments like

• polygamy is patriarchy, gay marriage isn't
• incest is bad for the gene pool, gay marriage isn't

These raise their own questions of how to dismantle patriarchy, or if governments should have a say in our genes, etc. But I don't think they're equivalent discussions.