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My son has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He's in his mid-twenties, so it's the average time for onset of bipolar disorder. No family history that we know of, but if it was just two generations back, it probably wouldn't have been talked about.

He had his first manic episode early in the year. He spent a brief time in in-patient treatment, followed by a period of out-patient treatment. During the out-patient treatment, his psychiatrist started to think the diagnosis was incorrect and she weaned him off his meds.

He has had another manic episode, and he's back in the in-patient facility. Luckily he was able to get back into the same place he was in before, so they aren't starting from zero. They started him back on different meds, and he's much better much faster than the first time.

His fiancee was talking to a friend and someone overheard. The person who overheard said her mother was bipolar and she had to take her to the hospital six times, and she told his fiancee that she should break up with him.

The only experts I've spoken to have been the doctors in the crisis center, and I don't know to what degree they are trying to sugar coat things to prevent us from giving up hope.

I'd rather know the reality.

If anyone has any personal experience they can share, I'd appreciate it. If anyone has any professional experience they can share, I'd appreciate that as well.

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

There are multiple types of bipolar disorder with various features, so take any advice from strangers with a grain of salt, as they probably don't know the specifics. I have a couple of personal experiences with bipolar disorder in general.

First, a close friend of mine - his manic episodes would usually involve him staying awake for days at a time, and his depressive episodes were pretty bad. Before being diagnosed with bipolar disorder he had some pretty bad experiences with therapy from a "therapist" that clearly didn't know anything about depression or bipolar disorder, since being diagnosed and settling on a medication he has been much, much more stable. I used to lie awake unable to sleep from the stress of worrying about him, I don't anymore. He still has depressive and manic periods but they are much, much less severe.

Secondly, an aunt. She had one of the more severe types, but we didn't know it. She always had bad depressive episodes (and there was apparently an early bad episode of mania that was written off as a one-off mental episode from stress or something) but it wasn't until she suddenly left my uncle and their children to run off with a married man she barely knew that it became more apparent something else was wrong. I suggested - stressing that I am not an expert in the matter - that it kind of sounded a lot like some of the self-destructive manic episodes I had heard about, not from my friend but from Stephen Fry. I had heard him talk about his bipolar disorder at one of his shows in Sydney, and his past involved a lot more trouble than you'd expect. He has a couple of documentaries about it, but I can't speak on how helpful they would be. Anyway, I turned out to be right, and so far she seems to be doing better, but it's still early days.

The main takeaway is there is hope. One thing I took away from Stephen Fry's talks in particular was that it is vital to keep taking the medication and not to decide, after a period of stability, that you don't need it anymore, that's a recipe for disaster.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Both times, at the height of the episode, he recognized that it wasn't right and asked for help.

While sitting in the crisis center with him and waiting for an out-patient placement this time, there was a moment when I was saying he just needed meds to get centered. He objected and said he was centered. I pointed out that if he was centered, we'd all be sleeping in our beds, and he was able to accept the logic of that.

The only reason he went off the meds the first time was because he was experiencing some bad side-effects and the doctor wasn't certain of the diagnosis. I'm pretty confident that he'll stay on the meds.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

It's worth exploring different medications to see if there are less side effects, it took my friend a few tries to find one that was effective without intolerable side effects.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Yeah, I spoke to him about that in the crisis center. I told him that it's going to take time and it's important to keep trying and to be aware of the possible side-effects so he can watch out for them.

When he told us that he started meds again, he told us what it was and let us know that he asked the doctor about side-effects, so I felt good about that.

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