and you brought in another issue caused by the same toxic masculinity

To be clear, someone else did.

The fact that someone answered to "actually males are more likely to experience violence" with "eh, but go look who does that violence" prompted my comment.

And it almost sounds like somehow the focus switched from the victim to the cause, when the victims are men. This is the cause why I decided to comment. Almost like violence and protection of who experiences matters depending on who is experiencing it, as if there would be any difference from a woman or a man experiencing violence, whether it is from a man or a woman.

However what you are doing here is either trying to derail the conversation, or making it about something that wasn't the original convo

If this is your argument, it is a weak one, because I specifically commented in a child thread about this very topic, in response to a very dismissive comment (from my POV). There is no conversation that I am hijacking nor it was me who brought up violence on men on the first place.

However doing it by attacking/derailing women complaining about the same issues is not

Thankfully neither happened.