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‘There were no warning signs’: what happens when your partner falls into the ‘manosphere’? (www.theguardian.com)
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cross-posted from: https://sh.itjust.works/post/36418433

With surveys reporting that an increasing number of young men are subscribing to these beliefs, the number of women finding that their partners share the misogynistic views espoused by the likes of Andrew Tate is also on the rise. Research from anti-fascism organisation Hope Not Hate, which polled about 2,000 people across the UK aged 16 to 24, discovered that 41% of young men support Tate versus just 12% of young women.

“Numbers are growing, with wives worried about their husbands and partners becoming radicalised,” says Nigel Bromage, a reformed neo-Nazi who is now the director of Exit Hate Trust, a charity that helps people who want to leave the far right.

“Wives or partners become really worried about the impact on their family, especially those with young children, as they fear they will be influenced by extremism and racism.”

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[–] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

People like me, but romantic interest seems to be off the table. Im not attracted to guys, but from my talks with multiple therapists and my friends of either gender, no one of either gender seems to be able to actually identify the issue.

Dating in person hasnt worked out, i dont live anywhere where people gather. So I'm left with online dating which is also an abject failure. By all accounts im reasonably attractive, probably moreso than average. Which is why I can only assume the issue lies in my body language. I'm guessing I give off autisitic vibes.

I'm just an anecdote though, my point is that there are a lot of people like me. I'm not an incel or right winger or anything like that. I know what makes someone an asshole and I know what makes someones character top quality, and I generally seek to embody those traits. We aren't evil, or filled with hate or anything. Society just doesnt seem to want us.

Edit: i mean that in a romantic way, no one actively drives me away from being friends.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    The problem is that you're trying to solve a puzzle that will reward you with a prize. Relationships don't work like that, people don't work like that. You just need to be yourself, autistic vibes and all, not be an asshole, and just live your live. There are people who are attracted to you specifically, you just didn't find them yet because you're to busy looking for a key to a puzzle of no pussy. Just... interact with people like they're people, find those who mutually like spending time with you, and that will eventually grow into something.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Thats an interesting part, the pussy is not the interest. It's other aspects that come with a relationship. Mostly having someone there who is there to pursue common interests with. Admittedly, a relationship is my only true goal however. I've never really felt a calling in this world nor a particular attatchment to it, presumably as a result of neurological issues or a difficult childhood.

    I appreciate the advice however, it's largely applicable but it's also what I've been doing for a while after advice I recieved. It's actually really funny in a dramatic irony kind of way however, I DO attract people. They're just definitely not what I am looking for. Either they're exclusively wanting sex, or they are a woman well beyond my age(im not shaming, thats just not for me. They were past my mothers age), or they're a guy. Either way, thats still fairly rare.

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