I don't think my father would consider spankings, with wooden paddle or leather belt, child abuse. It was a threat that I fell afoul of a few times at school or home.

Depending on your age, that level of "child abuse" might be normal. (Not that it should be.)

Ah yes, therapy has been fun the last few months since we've processed all the recent stuff and moved on to my childhood... Hugs to you friend.