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[+] 230 points 2 years ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (52 children)
  • [–] 89 points 2 years ago (17 children)

    Interesting thing about that is that, while it's still common practice, a lot of more left-leaning women did away with taking their husband's name years ago

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  • [–] 61 points 2 years ago (7 children)

    Yeah my wife and I just kept our name. Its funny because over the years we sorta wish we would have done the traditional thing as it would make a variety of things easier but now apparently its becoming a brilliant move.

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  • [–] 24 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    My wife did the same, but for unofficial stuff, she uses my last name as hers.

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  • [–] 20 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    yeah its more problematic for official stuff really. like being in the hospital. Its not much but like you tend to have to make it more clear your the spouse.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 years ago* (2 children)

    We got married ten years ago and she didn't take my name. I'm very much cool with it, and it's got easier over the years.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    yeah it was a slow burn annoyance and she gets annoyed by it more than I but it took like 20 odd years to be like. This is sorta annoying. EDITED - hey so im rethinking and it started at about the 10 year mark and built up over time but as I said its little things. My wife has a lot of medical issues though so we might have more nuisance around it than the typical couple.

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  • [+] 31 points 2 years ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)
  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    My wife didn’t take my last name and I’m so glad.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    My mom never took my dad's so I grew up with that being the norm, so I took it step further and my partner and I are not even married despite being together 11 years.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Yeah my partner and I didn't get married until 8 years deep, and that's going steady. We were fucking on and off for years before. We did it to appease our family. Never had any kids thank the hole in the ozone.

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  • [–] 42 points 2 years ago (18 children)

    Holy. Fucking. Shit. That’s bad. That’s oppressively stupid fucking bad.

    Hey Americans: Don’t want to be oppressed or live in a fascist state? Immigrate to Canada! We’re hella friendly and open to people’s of all kinds, except MAGAs and Nazis and or maga-nazis

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  • [–] 16 points 2 years ago (3 children)
  • [–] 11 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Hmm. You all raise a good point. As Canadians, I think we need to make it easier for Americans to immigrate here.

    We need to experience and expertise and we need to learn how to expedite that to bring the right people here to help expand Canadas capabilities.

    Canadians, how to we make this happen? I have zero knowledge how to make this happen.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    I'm moving to Sweden but I'll be stopping by your way first! I'm too trans to let tsa look at my passport so I'm going to land travel to you all and take a plane out from there

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago

    Unless things have changed significantly at the border in the past few years, there's no process to leave the US. It's just the Canadian border guard checking things as you enter their country.

    Of course, if the GOP decides to fully enact Operation: Handmaid's Tale, then that could change.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago

    Ha, if only that was an actual possibility. Most Americans will not qualify for immigration to Western countries.

    I'd also hold off on thinking you'll be safe. Poilievre might be unpopular now, but there's a lot of time between now and the election. It's not a slam dunk for Liberal, fascism can absolutely still rise in your country too.

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  • [–] 12 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    so anyone who changes their name? So like a whole bunch of hollywood. two birds one stone I guess from their view.

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  • [+] 14 points 2 years ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child)
  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    It depends on how much paperwork you do when you change your names, how much autocracy you want to fight

    When my ex divorced me she warned me me she wasn’t going through that again so I just need to deal with her keeping my name. She kept half of everything else of mine so I guess it’s no difference

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  • [–] 11 points 2 years ago* (3 children)

    Long term, this seems like an effective way to end that custom. What person would go into marriage changing their name when they know this attitude is at play?

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    It's cute you think that's not another right they'll quickly take away from women as soon as they can.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago*

    In British Columbia, there is no legal requirement to change your last name after marriage, and either spouse can legally use either last name at their leisure without any bureaucratic change. It is a genderless law.

    Fuckin A, now I am really appreciating that.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago

    My wife and I were talking about this last night. She chose not to change her name when we got married, as she's been down that road before and has no desire to do it again. I'm totally fine with it, she's been able to grow and discover things about herself now that she "wasn't allowed to" in her past marriage, and I love helping her realize that. We also just got our passports the other day - work wants me to get mine and paid for it, so she got hers as well.

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