As someone who’s been watching this, I appreciate your willingness to grow.
TBH, it does come across a bit as gaslighting on your part: Making reference to Christmas & Turkey’s, and making authoritative statements that “no, it’s not happening“ doesn’t seem to me like the approach of someone who is genuinely open and curious to learn.
The so-called posturing is probably defensiveness on the part of a person whose views are being actively invalidated and shot down.
Please reread your original comment and take some time to reflect (I say this as someone w/ a long history of putting foot in mouth, and will probably continue doing so inadvertently…)