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I think the “hating being told what to do” leans a little toward the ASD side of ADHD. The difficulty dealing with transitions that trigger anxiety and frustration when being shifted out of a routine.
You’re doing what you’re doing and focused on it, in the groove, then someone inserts something between you and the goal you were aimed at and completely destroys your flow.
It can really be pretty angering.
That doesn't quite match up with my experience.
I have no routines. Or maybe I have a routine that's super haphazard. To normal people it doesn't look like a routine.
When I get interrupted, on say something that needs my focus and my meds help me focus on, I can switch.
This is not that. It's not change, it's not interruption. I find the concept of authority to be meaningless unless everyone plays by the same rules, which clearly is not the case.
So when authority presents itself, I find the most pleasurable response to something obnoxious is being obnoxious. And that's probably the ADHD part.
That sounds more like ODD to me, though Autism sometimes comes with a fierce sense of justice (because things have to Make Sense) and I don't know your personal neurospicy Chex Mix.
According to the psych the only things that line up well with ASD are my masking symptoms which are indistinguishable from ADHD masking. Well and my generalized anxiety.
The big commonly talked about things- black and white thinking, narrow interests, behavior camouflaging, ignorance of social cues, or flat affect are absent.
Though interestingly my exwife has all of that, and it didn't occur to me until after we moved apart. She was hot, I was young, young men tend to ignore obvious problems until it's way too late.