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[–] 64 points 2 years ago (15 children)

First, 100% a red flag. Even if they wanted to give some sort of "I trust you with my life" sort of video, there's a bunch of better ways to do it. Going for a racist rant makes me think that they're a racist.

Secondly, this is deeply submissive - they're giving you the power to ruin their life. If you want to do that sort of stuff as a couple you should really talk about it first and be on board with receiving that sort of power and responsibility. Entirely possible+reasonable for the receiver to find this shitty because they don't want to make a choice like this, especially if these are truly held beliefs.

The healthy response to this is to send them to a therapist. And definitely dump them if they're actually racist.

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  • [–] 12 points 2 years ago (13 children)

    I don't see how someone could do a racist rant and not be racist. That it is a rant is an important word here.

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  • [–] 13 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    Have you never heard of acting?

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  • [–] 0 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    Where's the leverage if it's a performance?

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  • [–] 10 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    I can (and have, many times) dropped a hard-r for comedic effect, even around my black friends, as they have the context to know that I'm not actually the kind of person to use that word normally

    If I was recorded and shared to the internet doing so free of context, I would be labelled as a racist shithead immediately and forever

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    Is that the situation here? It is not.

    Everyone wanting to give the benefit of the doubt here gives racists room to exist.

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  • That's how I read it, yes. But we obviously don't have enough context to say whether the GF is actually racist or just pretending to be as a crazy trust exercise. I'm taking it as a crazy trust exercise because that's the only way this could fit any definition of "romantic."

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    I bet if you tried hard enough you could come up with one

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  • [–] 0 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    I think taking any random problem and putting blame on a group of people would be racist. I could spruce it up with the term “nipper” or “kike” and most people would find it racist

    I suppose you just don’t find anything racist if you can’t come up with it

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