I mean yeah, they should probably be ungendered, but in our society they still do get gendered. A lot of expectation is placed on men to be the kind of hard-working person that will work a 50 hour week, put food on the table, be a perfect and present father to their children and a dependable rock for their partner while being perfectly in control of their emotions themselves (and don't you even think about crying) and still have time to build a furnace and teach the eldest how to change a tire and have an active social life and work out and improve themselves and do all those other things that a normal person needs to do. It's not good and it's not right, and it's not even what the OP was specifically talking about in the post, but that's why you'll see words like "strong", "dependable", "capable", etc thrown around in this thread a lot, because men like to feel that way because it feels like they've achieved at least some part of the frankly impossible image that's placed in young boy's heads of what a man should be.