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Kevin Spacey cleared over all sexual assault charges (www.bbc.co.uk)
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[–] 6 points 3 years ago (1 child)

To replay your own argument: something tells me you wouldn't be so keen on that if you were the one being accused of a crime you had not committed.

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  • [–] -1 points 3 years ago (3 children)

    Hahahaha, that's hilarious. Because I'm actually at extraordinarily high risk of that happening. I'm a nurse. That happens all the time to nurses.

    Thorough investigations are done. And no, I don't worry about it. You know why? Because I'm not a fucking rapist sexual predator and everyone who knows me knows that.

    You gotta wonder about people who are sooooooooooooo worried about being "falsely" accused of rape that they think false accusations are worthy of jail time. What exactly are you doing out there in the world that this is a major concern in your life? That you think it's even possible for your whole life to be ruined over a baseless accusation?

    Because this is simply not something I worry about at all.

    Also, maybe actually take ten seconds to read about this person. This was not one accusation, it was dozens in multiple countries spanning decades: https://people.com/tv/kevin-spacey-controversy-timeline/

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  • [–] 8 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    This is way too close to "if you've done nothing wrong, you've got nothing to hide" logic.

    What exactly are you doing out there in the world that this is a major concern in your life?

    Making terrible choices in friends, for one. Never been accused of SA, thank christ, but figured out too late that many people live in their own reality, and rewrite history once the friendship ends. Have also known people who have been in that situation, and even if no charges end up being pressed, it's still a gut-wrenching situation to be in.

    The issue of how to handle SA accusations is such a nightmare that it's practically inevitable that we have both innocent people convicted, and guilty people acquitted at the same time. Most of the time we don't have the kind of oversight and institutional procedure you would enjoy if accused.

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  • [–] -1 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    You're being deliberately obtuse and conflating completely different situations, and I think you're doing it on purpose to muddy the waters. An accusation after a breakup that cause a fight among friends is a very different situation from a report to the police. Even a report to the police often doesn't trigger an investigation. And God knows it rarely triggers an actual prosecution. These are simply not things that you need to worry about, if you're not running around the world raping people. If it causes you anxiety that severe, get therapy.

    Because it's not the giant boogeyman that internet apologists like to pretend it is, with data:

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21164210/

    Compared to actual real sexual assault, which IS a huge problem:

    https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/sexualviolence/fastfact.html

    Because I'm sorry, but losing a few friends is not a terrible enough consequence for me to get worked up about. Shit happens, friends get in fights and stop being friends over all sorts of dumb shit. I see zero reason why that would cause someone to go through their lives in mortal fear that they might be "falsely" accused of a sex crime.

    The issue of how to handle sexual assault accusations is not complicated. I told you, we handle them all the time in the medical field. You default to protecting the accuser, you do a thorough investigation, if the investigation turns up no evidence, you move on.

    A "he said, she said" situation that never gets formally investigated, but causes the breakup of some friendships is not as terrible as being actually raped. It's just not.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 years ago

    Don't accuse me of being obtuse and conflating different situations when you just attacked a massive strawman. I'm not talking about rumours, more like someone showing up to a party at your place, acting weird from the moment she showed up, locking herself in the toilet, self-harming, then wasting weeks of your life and doing a number on your sanity after going to the police, claiming she was raped. This isn't a hypothetical.

    Compared to actual real sexual assault, which IS a huge problem

    You repeat some variation of this about 3 times in your reply. This is called relative privation. Two things can be problems at the same time, and it doesn't need to be a competition over which one we're allowed to care about.

    The issue of how to handle sexual assault accusations is not complicated. I told you, we handle them all the time in the medical field. You default to protecting the accuser, you do a thorough investigation, if the investigation turns up no evidence, you move on.

    Speaking of conflation... most people don't have the luxury of a professional environment with oversight and procedures for handling these situations. You live in a fantasy land if you think this is how actual human relationships play out, or if this is how they're investigated.

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  • [–] 7 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) (1 child)

    People, for a whole host of reasons, can be and very much are in different situations than you. Some have very little defense against such allegations, and so it should not be very difficult to understand that they could have their lives destroyed in an instant by false accusations.

    For instance, if they engage in non-normalized sexual relations (for their area or country, obviously), be that interracial, same sex, BDSM, etc., particularly if they are not "out". It's very easy to go from "he tied me up and we had a great time", to "that guy did me wrong somehow so now I'm going to press charges and claim he tied me up against my will and raped me". If you don't think this happens you're living in a dream land.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 years ago* (1 child)

    You're living in a dream land if you think going to the police with nothing more than "yes I went over to his house consensually and it turned bad from there" is likely to result in a legal prosecution.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 years ago (2 children)

    Sorry to burst your bubble, but this has actually happened. The case I know of, personally, involved a bar owner. He was exonerated after a few years being dragged through the mud, but he ended up having to shut down his bar and move out of town to be left alone. This stuff happens.

    Do I have a better alternative? No, it's a complex issue and we definitely don't want to victim blame, but we also don't want to destroy people's lives over just allegations. It's a delicate balance. I think one thing we could do, at very least, is to actually stand by the innocent until proven guilty ideal and not publish the identity of the accused until a verdict comes out. This is the way it is in most of Europe and a "perp walk" happening like it does in the US would free highly illegal.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 years ago

    I've given a lot of thought to this issue in the past and I think it all boils down to one indisputable fact:

    "You just believe her" is completely at odds with "innocent until proven guilty."

    "We should believe women" is a laudable phrase, and it makes us feel good to say it, but men are victims as well, especially trans men. "We should believe victims" would be better, but it is a begging-the-question fallacy, it assumes the victimhood is true. The people who made that not possible are specifically the people who have made false allegations in the past.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    It is far, far more common for women who allege to be completely ignored, ridiculed, dragged through the mud should they choose to pursue charges. That's a simple fact of the world. RAPE IS A BIGGER PROBLEM THAN FALSE RAPE ACCUSATIONS.

    https://www.rainn.org/statistics/criminal-justice-system

    https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a18799799/sexaul-assault-reporting/

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  • [–] 1 point 3 years ago (1 child)

    I'm not denying what you're saying, I'm saying both are a problem and advocating for not throwing out the baby with the bath water. There must be a way to adjust our system to account for both cases, no? Or would that be objectionable to you somehow?

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  • [–] 3 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    You have zero empathy. I feel bad for your patients.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 years ago

    I also express little sympathy for people who worry more about the side effects of the Covid vaccine than they do about the negative effects of actual Covid. Because one of those things is an actual serious problem, and the other is a boogeyman used for political purposes.

    Supported by data. You know, kind of like the difference between false accusations of rape and ACTUAL RAPE.

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21164210/

    https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/sexualviolence/fastfact.html

    So yes, I am more concerned about actual rape. The thing that happens to orders of magnitude more people.

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