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[–] 21 points 2 years ago (10 children)

So what's it called when you get picked on for being outside the norm so you decide to try get the interests of everyone else but go too far in that study and end up with so much knowledge, hobbies and interests that you go right out the other side of not being relatable anymore. And while people no longer directly mock you for not having their interest they find you weird and untrustworthy to be in their social circle because they don't think you actually belong there?

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  • [–] 5 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    I'm in this comment and I don't like it.

    Several times I would end up in a situation where I'm talking to someone and they mention something that peaks my interest. After that encounter, I would go home and furiously research the topic of interest becoming, essentially, a "prosumer" overnight in the subject.

    The next time I see that person, I'd talk about that subject and I would have so much more knowledge than they do that I'd talk over their head.

    Oh well.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    People just want to enjoy their thing, not be infodumped at by an encyclopedia. It's fine to read everything about the hobby but try using that to understand what interests them about the subject and relate that way.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    I've gotten a lot better about it over the years, but this is good advice for anyone still in the situation.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Yeah I think it's something a lot of us do.

    Masking is definitely a skill that can be developed. I don't even think of it as a negative thing really, it's just knowing your audience and trying to relate on a similar level.

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