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Those with parents who hold opposite political views than you, how do you go about disagreeing? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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To be more specific, my parents raised my siblings and me to "respect" them, saying "yes sir, and "no ma'am" to everything they said. Spankings, all of that. Typical super conservative evangelical parents. Before I learned better, I was that way too. I went to college and since then have embraced the left more and more.

They'll say things now and then that are really distasteful politically. Today I made an Instagram post about DeSantis lying about liberal states allowing post-birth abortions and I got several family members railing against me. I'm tired of staying quiet when this happens. I think that, because how my parents raised me, I'm afraid to speak my mind to older family members. Fuck that though.

Has anyone else had this experience? I wonder if therapy would help. I just don't know how to explain it.

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[–] [email protected] 61 points 1 year ago (7 children)

I feel cynical about this and don't think we live in a time when most people's minds can truly be changed. Therefore I choose not to engage most people about politics and so find it easier to like people.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Agreed. I'm old enough to remember when you could have a rational debate with conservatives on a foreign policy question or government budget priorities or economic policy. But how do you argue with someone who believes that millions of illegal votes were cast in 2020 or that Jews secretly control the world financial system or that white people are the real victims of racism?

You can't argue with someone who lives in a different reality than you do because there are no common points of reference. It's the most insidious effect of over-exposure to conservative media and I have no idea how people can be deprogrammed.

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