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Hot take: 26 year olds should not fuck 19 year olds. (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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It's not illegal, but it's still weird, creepy and potentially harmful and no amount of lambasting about "the problematic age gap discourse" will make it not true.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

There isn't a defined line for when an age gap is bad because it's only one factor and while there is obviously a power dynamic between differently aged people that doesn't necessarily make the relationship harmful. As others have pointed out, there are power dynamics in every relationship. What's important is whether it's being utilized or not.

I think it's ultimately problem of alienation under capitalism. Ideally, under communism, you could rely more on the community to prevent predatory or abusive relationships without having super strict rules. I think 19-26 is in a grey area, it could easily be predatory but it's possible for it not to be. I'd rather err on the side of bodily autonomy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

while there is obviously a power dynamic between differently aged people

IDK, I feel like that's an incomplete proposition, to some extent at least.

The things that typically make for an "power-dynamic" in a relationship, like accumulated personal wealth, social experience, social networks & ones overall position in society are all to some extent or another correlated with age to some extent. But y'know, none of those are necessarily guarantees; at least not within the specific age-range specified in the post at any rate.