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Jerry Seinfeld’s Teen Girlfriend Saga Resurfaces After Duke Walkout (www.thedailybeast.com)
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[–] 8 points 2 years ago (1 child)

prime reproductive years

girls enter puberty so much earlier than boys, their capable of reproduction anywhere from 10-12. When you talk about "prime reproductive years," know that it includes girls as young as 10. So... stop using that term. I am giving you the benefit of the doubt and inferring that you actually mean girls that are on the very cusp of womanhood, like, ages 17-19, but others may not.

Women are hot, girls are not. Some girls can appear to be older than they are, and it's confusing when confronted with a genuinely attractive woman that is not yet 18, because we're caught between the confusing notions of "I am attracted to this person" and "this person is not yet old enough to to be engaged with in a socially conscious manner." It's not wrong to find the person attractive, it IS wrong to engage with them in a manner reserved for those that are fully realized adults. For my purposes, I'm putting adulthood at around age 22-25, when your brain is pretty much fully developed.

So with that being said, No, Jerry Seinfeld didn't do a bad thing by thinking a 17 year old girl attractive, he DID do a bad thing by engaging with her as if she was a fully formed adult.

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  • [+] -7 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    When you talk about “prime reproductive years,” know that it includes girls as young as 10.

    Prime reproductive years for women is generally late teens to late 20s. I'll keep using the term because I'm using it accurately, and it's exactly the whole point: biologically speaking why would it be surprising that some men would find a women who is prime for reproduction attractive? It just makes perfect sense.

    it’s confusing when confronted with a genuinely attractive woman that is not yet 18,

    It's only confusing to you because you've bought into the puritanical notion that there is something wrong with being attracted to young women; there's really nothing confusing about it: it's reasonable to find them physically attractive, but almost certainly inappropriate to engage in a relationship with them. This is the misconception I'm trying to dispell here.

    I agree that at best he did a questionable thing. However I know nothing of her maturity at the time. As I've said elsewhere, I've met emotionally and intellectually immature 40 year olds (certainly plenty in their late 20s) and intellectually stimulating and mature 16 year olds. If it's legal, and she was mature, why would it be wrong? And would it be wrong if I had sex with "a fully formed adult" when she is emotionally immature? I get we need a rule to catch the vast majority of the cases, but from a moral stand point I can't say why it would be okay to have sex with an emotional immature adult, but not okay to have sex with an emotionally mature adult just because the latter is younger than the former.

    Again, don't get me wrong, the vast majority of the time there is some taking advantage going on, and there should be laws to stop it. I'm not arguing against this.

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  • [–] 14 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    One of the leading causes of death for teen girls aged 15-19 is complications from childbirth. Also infants born to teen mothers have increased risk of death and poorer health outcomes. One of the most common issues is obstructed labor, since their pelvises are too small to accomdate a baby.

    Recent research has also found teen pregnancy is linked to premature death later in life.

    The science doesn't agree that teen girls are in their prime reproductive years. I wish this idea would fade into the history books and live alongside the idea that women shouldnt ride trains because their uteruses would fly out.

    Some links below for your convenience.

    https://www.nicswell.co.uk/health-news/teenage-pregnancy-death-concern

    https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/14/health/teen-pregnancy-early-death.html

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  • [+] -6 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    girls under the age of 15 are five times more likely to die in pregnancy than women in their 20s

    I put prime years at late teens to late 20s. This seems to confirm that, not contradict it.

    The second link I cant see if or where they broke it out by age...only teen vs non-teen. I would be curious to see what would change if you moved the number to 17.

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  • [–] 12 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Here is more information that includes the ages 16-19. Having a child before the age of 20 increases risks of death, injury, or complications. Again, not prime reproductive years. Before the modern era women had kids young, but thats because EVERYONE had shorter live spans and death was common in general. Still doesn't add up to "teens are in their reproductbe prime."

    I have a feeling no matter how many facts or how much data I present to refute your position you aren't going to be open to changing your mind. However, I'd like this information to be available to others who might find it insightful.

    https://www.webmd.com/baby/teen-pregnancy-medical-risks-and-realities

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  • [+] -6 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    That doesn't appear to separate out the ages, it just says it typically happens 15-19, but can be as low as 10.

    I have a feeling no matter how many facts or how much data I present to refute your position you aren’t going to be open to changing your mind.

    Let's see if you're projecting:

    "A woman's fertility peaks between her late teens to late-20s after which it starts to decline"

    But that being said, you recognize that this was typical, which seems you should also recognize that this is what we evolved around. If women were reproducing at a young age, but were dying slightly more by their 30s, this wasn't creating downward evolutionary pressure.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    The best time to have a baby with the lowest risk is ages 20 - 26. That's the window with the best outcome. I love science, it's the best way to move towards better ideas and medical practices. That's why I care about dispelling the idea that teenagers are in their reproductive prime.

    Also, this might be interesting to you. Women didn't marry young as frequently as we're told.

    https://historymyths.wordpress.com/2014/07/06/myth-136-women-married-very-young-in-the-olden-days/

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  • [–] -2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    So not being open to changing your mind was a projection. I figured as much, its almost always people thinking they see themselves in other people when they make baseless accusations.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    You ignored data twice, and then I agreed that past 30 is a higher risk pregnancy. No idea what you are talking about friend.

    I then provided info that shows women werent always marrying as young as people tend think which goes against your basis that evolution supports teens being in their reproductive prime. You haven't supplied any data at all to back up your claims.

    But you do you. The info is out there for you and others. Have a nice day now

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  • [–] -2 points 2 years ago

    You ignored data twice

    I addressed all of the data you provided, even asking for further clarification for one of the sources. You just hand-waved my point, with data, away. Even now trying to claim that I didn't provide it. And you're accusing me of ignoring data. Lol Just another projection. You're good at doing this.

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  • [–] -2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    A little off base, but, Many of my relatives came from families of 6-10 children. More often than not, mothers died in childbirth. Is this where we want society to return?

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    How did you possibly get yourself to this being a reasonable question?

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    Does it matter? When younger women are sexualized, they get pregnant.

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  • [–] 9 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    If it’s legal, and she was mature, why would it be wrong

    Well a thing being legal does not make a thing right. Emotional maturity is subjective, and thus is not what we use for determining whether a person is considered an adult or not.

    would it be wrong if I had sex with “a fully formed adult” when she is emotionally immature?

    Maturity isn't the guiding rod by which we can determine adulthood. I'm suggesting that age is relevant to this, because it's the best we have at determining brain formation. Intellectual disabilities in an adult would mean that engaging with them sexually is wrong, showing that it is the functionality of the brain that determines adulthood. If there was never a need for a draft, I think we would naturally have concluded adulthood starts around 22-25, instead of the arbitrary designation of 18. For the purpose of having a hard rule to stop children from being taken advantage of, age is the best we have (for people without intellectual/developmental disabilities).

    With that in mind, we really can say definitively, that no, Seinfeld isn't wrong for finding her attractive, but he was for having a sexual relationship with her.

    That being said, arguing that the urges behind the wrong act are "natural," seems to argue for a relaxation of our attitude towards these relationships, which is also wrong. which is why other Lemmineers got the "ick" from your previous comment.

    Because nobody is upset that he found her attractive. We're upset because he was a fully formed adult, with super-stardom and all the trappings of power that come with it, engaging in a sexual relationship with a not fully formed adult.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    Because nobody is upset that he found her attractive.

    You should absolutely read the rest of this thread because someone outright said that I deviate from the norm by finding some of them attractive, and even tried to equate being attracted to them to having the desire to murder.

    But that being said, as I already very clearly and explicitly said, I agree laws should be in place to protect minors from predators. I'm also fine with it being based on age.

    It's just that you are, on one hand, saying legality and morality are not the same (correctly, imo) but then arguing with me that it's morally bad in many cases so we need to have a clear law (which I also agree with), which makes what he did immoral. Maybe they were emotionally and intellectually compatible. I don't know, as I don't know either of them, and everyone close to it has said it was a good relationship. Who am I to say it was bad?

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