🙄The fringe idea that we all have a 'gender identity' that may or may not match our biological sex is the whole point of this discussion. Trans activists act as though the existence of 'gender identity' is a settled, self-evident point, when to the vast majority of the world it's unevidenced, quasi-religious, pseudoscientific nonsense, which has been imposed top down on our society with serious consequences for vulnerable women and troubled youth in particular.
Meaningful discussion about competing needs and rights cannot happen inside an elitist ideological bubble where everyone is forced to adopt gender ideology's approved jargon, accept its self-contradicting slogans as fact and pretend fact-light assertions and feeble sophistry are critical thinking.
You tell us to 'educate' ourselves, by which you mean, 'adopt our beliefs unquestioningly,' but at this point, most of us know your arguments off by heart. These include, but are not limited to: feelings trump facts and unless we agree we're 'erasing people from existence'; women and girls aren't definable entities, so why should they be entitled to their own sports and single-sex spaces; clownfish and people with DSDs mean sex is 'on a spectrum' and 'woman' is a set of stereotypes associated with the female sex class, so it doesn't matter if you've got a penis, if you identify with those stereotypes you're 'valid'.
The reason we haven't been won over by these talking points and remain so tragically 'uneducated' isn't that we've failed to grasp the sophistication of your world view. It's that we think you're talking unadulterated bullshit and making fools of yourselves.

Your ideology crumbles to dust if you concede that the difference between what you call ‘cis’ women and trans-identified men is that the former are female and the latter are male. You can’t explain what makes some men women without invoking the ideological concept of ‘gender identity’, an ineffable, unfalsifiable concept in which most people don’t believe. Good faith argument is not possible if one side demands submission to two unevidenced beliefs before discussion can begin. I’m afraid that when you arm yourself with trans activist clichés and regurgitate whichever one seems most appropriate in the moment, then fall back on ad hominem attacks if you meet resistance, you don’t need anyone else’s help to become to ‘some kind of caricature.’