So, I was on a call with my fiancée and I started to get really tired.

I fell asleep and she whispered my name several times before saying it and having to shout it 😭 I feel so bad, she had a nightmare and wanted me to comfort her.

She felt bad about waking me, but i tell her to when she has a nightmare so I can be there for her. She says I look peaceful asleep though, so she hates doing it 😓

@lesbians Violet Trefusis was a British #lesbian author. She would be 131 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violet/_Trefusis

So Aiko (my fiancée) and I went to a restaurant and then I proposed to her at the restaurant. She said yes!! And we ate dessert! 💍

💕 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

I had a cremoso de chocolate. Well, I’m gonna sleep for Aiko. Goodnight ❤️

I’ll be here later today I guess or tomorrow as I don’t use Lemmy much. My eyes are closing so I guess I’ll have a good sleep 😊

I more or less took a nap. Goodnight!! 💓 I was too excited to sleep from the marriage! Love you all lesbians! /p

I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years. I want to surprise her by proposing to her and being all fancy for our hangout soon, but I don’t want to move too fast. 3 years should be fine, right??

Anyway, I’ll tell you how it goes!!

I think I’ll go back to sleep… 😅

@lesbians Peggy Fears was an American #lesbian actress. She would be 122 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peggy/_Fears

@lesbians Emily Faithfull was a British #lesbian printer, publisher and activist. She would be 190 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emily/_Faithfull

@lesbians Mathilde de Morny was a French #lesbian author. She would be 162 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mathilde/_de/_Morny

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I love women!

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I had a breakup last month and made a whole playlist of songs to cry and reminisce to, but this one is the one I play most by far. What's yours?

@lesbians Yvonne de Bray was a French #lesbian actress. She would be 136 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yvonne/_de/_Bray

@lesbians Frieda Belinfante was a Dutch lesbian conductor and Nazi resistance fighter. She would be 121 today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frieda/_Belinfante

@lesbians Lesley Gore was an American #lesbian musician and songwriter. She would be 79 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lesley/_Gore

@lesbians Alice Toklas was an American #lesbian author, editor, secretary and marijuana enthusiast. She would be 148 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alice/_B./_Toklas

@lesbians Violette Morris was a French #lesbian athlete and fascist. She died 81 years ago today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violette/_Morris

me and ex have dated for around 11 months. I broke up with her because she would only spend time on video games and her friends.

she was hardly ever online and when she was, never spoke to me.

she lost interest in me and was seeing other ppl without my knowledge or consent. it turned out, she didn’t even have feelings for me.

she also used to be incredibly abusive, homophobic, transphobic, even racist (which is why I broke up the first time) but is now suddenly a huge lesbian rights supporter (I’m proud of her growth though).

even when I speak in the GC, they all just talk to each other, ignore my messages, and talk about their video games, tv show, etc.

like, if anyone (especially my ex) says something, her friends will be like “OMG SO TRUE THATS HILARIOUS” but talk over me.

my ex will somewhat talk to me, but her friends will act like I don’t exist

@lesbians Roommates, again

#lesbian

@lesbian

I lived a lot of my life as a boy and man (gross), so relationships I had with women were visibly heterosexual in that period.

Nonetheless, because I was so effeminate as a man, I was commonly seen as gay and I often felt like I was not "straight-passing" even though my relationship was viewed as straight, even when I insisted I was straight, etc.

After transitioning, it feels like for the first time my effeminate nature aligned with my perceived female gender, and people no longer perceived me as gay - it's like I became "straight" for the first time in my life.

Simultaneously, my relationship went from straight to gay. When I was visibly trans and not cis-passing, the relationship was obviously "queer" or "gay" to other people, which made my partner very happy (she loves being visibly queer, which is not something I enjoy as much).

Once I started to pass as a cis woman, suddenly our relationship became perceived as platonic - people started asking if we need one or two checks at a restaurant where before they assumed we were together. Even when we are affectionate with one another it seems like people don't assume we are in a romantic relationship. It's like the relationship has become invisible.

I know from communities like /r/reallesbians that we often struggle to be visible to one another (esp. it seems for people to know who is a candidate to date), and people talk about what signals lesbians commonly use to identify to others that they are gay or bi, etc. - so I suspect others might feel the way I do too, it's like society doesn't consider my relationship "valid" anymore.

When I clarify that we are partners, it feels like we are given a second-class designation as a relationship, as though it were a relationship between young people or children. Whereas when we were perceived as straight I felt like we were treated like we were really together, that the relationship was serious.

Been thinking about this, so I thought I'd put it out there. Part of the problem is that I live in a homophobic and conservative place, so I know that doesn't help - does anyone have experiences moving to more liberal places where they felt suddenly like their queer relationship was taken more seriously?

Even when I was visibly trans, I think a lot of people still took our "queer"-visible relationship seriously because they coded it as still a kind of "heterosexual" relationship (between a male and a female). I feel like the cis-passing woman with woman relationship is considered less valid, taken less seriously by comparison.

@lesbians Johanna Elberskirchen was a German #lesbian writer and activist. She would be 161 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Johanna/_Elberskirchen

I recently got into WSL and it seems like all the amazing footballers are all lesbian….

Emma (16) keeps harassing my GF (18), and accusing her of SA. This is pissing me off so much as her boyfriend.

(mild possible nsfw)

(i am genderfluid and bi btw but still sapphic 🙏 😅)

i’ve seen people joke flirt with each other as friends, but not like this, so idk if these two are friends or dating. Emma is being nicer so i added her alt when she added me to a gc, but these things she”s saying and what she’s doing in a group chat instead of dm’s is kinda putting me off…