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[–] 23 points 3 days ago (2 children)

My girl was like that, but consistency goes a long way!

She still sometimes thinks of herself as ugly and undeserving (she's a fuckin' goddess, wtf), but she accepted that she is genuinely and passionately loved.

Still weirds her out, though.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 days ago

    Women have some serious shit doled out at them about standards of beauty. I remember one girlfriend I had was very conscious about her skin not being perfect. She was a beautiful woman, great personality, a lot of fun - but was nervous because her skin wasn't perfect. (We split because I had to move away to start my career, and she wanted kids, while I didn't - so there wasn't much point in continuing a long distance relationship.)

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  • [–] 58 points 3 days ago (12 children)

    Perfect! First date can be the two of them in front of a therapist.

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  • [–] 36 points 3 days ago (11 children)

    This is literally the problem I'm having with a girl right now.

    She's a therapist.

    So am I.

    Don't trust therapists to have all their stuff together 😏

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  • [–] 11 points 3 days ago* (2 children)

    How often do you catch her using techniques and tell her not to cite the deep magic to you? Or vice versa? Are you the witch in this relationship?

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  • [–] 10 points 3 days ago (3 children)

    Oh geez. Do y’all psychoanalyze each other?

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  • [–] 8 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    So how are you arguing?

    "My ego is really upset because of what you did but it might be also a bit overreacting because its similar to how my mother treated me as a child. Anyways, this is how I feel right know. I just wanted to tell you so you can understand why I am acting like this right now. Does this make sense to you?

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  • [–] 34 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    God, I dated a girl like this. We were like best friends, started dating and would argue with me any time I gave her a compliment or told her how I felt about her. Sad. I really did love her. She just didn't feel like she deserved to be loved.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 days ago

    As someone who has never been on a date but has watched a lot of romcom anime: a recurring theme that I see in them is about how you can’t be in love with someone if you don’t also love yourself. If you don’t believe you are worthy to be with another person, how can you ever accept their feelings even if they do come out and say it?

    I’m not really going anywhere with this. It’s just something I’ve noticed.

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  • Should be him bringing her since she's the one in need of adjustment

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  • [–] 0 points 2 days ago

    yeh, imposter syndrome

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