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How do you tip? (thelemmy.club)
submitted 3 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) by unitedwithme@lemmy.today to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

HOW do you guys tip in the US? Do you go by food total or bill total? I know it's frowned upon in other countries, I'm not here to question or debate that.

~~No matter how you split it, pre or post tax, the "gratuity" is much higher than it should be! The 18%is higher even than what actual 20% should be!~~

~~Pretax should be $14.26, tax included (ripoff) should be $15.44. So why is the "20%" up to $18.25?! That's a 25.5% tip.~~

For me, I tip "15%" but round numbers. The bill is $72, so I take 10% (7.20 but round up to 8 then add 4) which ends up $12.

If they were exceptional, I just go off 20% which is $16 by my method, and round the total to the nearest dollar... ~~but even that isn't their pretend 18%!! And technically my method is over 20% after rounding up. They're all just taking advantage of niceness and guilt for patrons having to tip everyone.~~

Edit: I fucked up being hung up on numbers, not realizing to the left was the explanation. 😅 OK, so just: how do y'all tip?

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[-] yermaw@sh.itjust.works 2 points 23 minutes ago

Cant help with reality here. Not in USA.

In UK I just round it up to the nearest note with the phrase "keep the change pal". I look like a fairly generous guy if the change is 4.90. I look like a condescending prick if the change is 0.10.

At that point though im out the door so I dont have to deal with gratitude or the ol' stinkeye

[-] schildfrosch@feddit.org 1 points 16 minutes ago

that qr code isn't properly censored. qrs have redundancy and you need at most like 60% visible for most of them. pulled the number aut of my ass but it's definitely a thing.

[-] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

I disagree with tipping on tax, but agree with tipping on discounts. I baseline 20% and adjust up or down based on quality of service, while paying attention to how overworked the staff is.

I once sat at a hibachi table with strangers who were super demanding and then complained about the service and refused to tip so I added their tip to my bill (without saying anything because I didn't want to start an argument with them).

Waitstaff get fucked coming and going. If they do their share of the work, it's not their fault if the kitchen fucked up. I generally just add the cost of the comped item to the tip rather than 20%.

[-] Abyssian@lemmy.world 1 points 28 minutes ago

I order everything to-go. Cheaper, and I can eat in the comfort of my own home without anyone judging me for slopping it all in a bucket or pushing me to taking one last bite and exploding.

[-] Malyca@lemmy.zip 2 points 57 minutes ago

I just do 20 for easy math

[-] avguser@lemmy.world 25 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

Suggested gratuity is calculated after taxes and before discounts.

If you add back in the comped appetizer, the math maths. Not saying I agree with the practice, but it's not fraud. They're suggesting you tip based off what you received not what you're paying per se.

[-] i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca 8 points 2 hours ago

That’s the right answer.

It seems weird in this context, but the normal case is if you’re paying with a gift card. If I had a $110 dinner and had a $100 gift card that was subtracted off the total, the expected tip would be off the $110, not just the $10 paid out of pocket.

[-] valar@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 hours ago

I agree with calculating tips before discounts, but calculating tips after taxes is bull. I'm not tipping the government.

[-] roofuskit@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

Calculating gratutiy before discounts and taxes is the cultural norm.

[-] Arts251@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 hour ago

71.35 + 13.99 = 85.34 x 0.15 (for good service) = 12.80

if paying cash round up or down to the nearest dollar.

[-] Kolanaki@pawb.social 7 points 2 hours ago

I had to do a double take because I thought you got charged $14 for fucking water.

[-] DankDingleberry@lemmy.world 5 points 2 hours ago

wow. suggested tip in the US syart with 18%. i could NOT afford to eat out in the us

You could, you would just have to tolerate the side-eyeing. 🤷‍♂️

[-] Soulinyx@piefed.world 3 points 2 hours ago

I don't tip. Like, look, I would be blessed if I even go out to dine somewhere. I would just be demanding your workplace to pay you more. I shouldn't have to cover that tab.

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 8 points 3 hours ago

So, the reason the math is off, is because they calculated the percentages before discounts.

See that free appetizer on there? It was part of your total when they did the math. Which seems less shady when you remember the tip goes to your server, who did the same amount of work, no matter how much of a discount you received.

[-] lemmylump@lemmy.world 1 points 19 minutes ago

This assumes the restaurant let's servers keep their tips.

You be surprised how many restaurants fuck over servers and take their tips.

[-] unitedwithme@lemmy.today 3 points 2 hours ago

OK that makes a bit more sense. How did I miss that on the left of the suggested amounts? 😅

[-] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago

I tip depending on what I can afford and level of service.

one time a pizza guy delivered my pizza, seemed really chill and was way early (delivered like 10 minutes after I ordered it). I only had $100 bills so I tipped him $100 on a $25 pizza.

another time my food was four hours late. I was already in bed at that time. they got zero tip. left my pizza on my front door where raccoons tore it apart and I had to hose pizza sauce off my steps and door the next morning.

[-] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 hours ago

"Suggested gratuity is calculated after tax and before discounts", right there on the check.

There's a $13.99 discount on the bill for the free chicken wings. Add that in, and the value of the food you got was a bit over $91, the calculated percentages are correct for that number.

[-] Bluegrass_Addict@lemmy.ca -2 points 2 hours ago

I tip $0.

no ifs ands or buts. zero. null. talk to your boss if you need more money, or quit. not my problem.

[-] meco03211@lemmy.world -4 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

If you could get the ear of a manager I'd "inform" them of the error. If I got even a hint that it was a known and accepted error or even intentional, I'd tell them I'm not eating there anymore. You could also talk to the server or bartender to see if it's a known issue.

Had they had shit like this when I was serving I'd have crossed that off on every bill I brought to a customer.

Edit: just a pet peeve. why the hell do people just downvote with no extra comment? What is so controversial about what I said?

Secondly, given that it's a corporate chain (didn't clock that before commenting), they'd get no benefit of the doubt. I'd just tell them I'm not coming back and that's the reason.

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago

It's a corporate chain. The manager has very little control over what's on those receipts.

[-] Aphos@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 hours ago
[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world -5 points 3 hours ago

Remember kids, when you don't tip, it makes you just another one of the owning class that withholds wages from honest workers!

[-] vala@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 36 minutes ago
[-] Bluegrass_Addict@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 hours ago

fuck you it does.

that bullshit is on their cheap ass boss or restaurant owner. pay your employees, don't ask them to beg for money.

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