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I work with them all the time, I usually just let them talk and hear whatever the new bullshit they have to say if anything. I had one guy tell me, first words, "I want to put all blue haired people in nazi style camps."

The sense of pity usually gets me first because I have another human being by me whose entire conscious I can understand and see the limits of and it's pathetic.

Oh you hate the government and liberals, and you want to live on a farm in South Dakota via VA disability, but you also want to be a government contractor? You have two fucked up knees and no feeling in your fingers? Huh.

I've met you already. You're a kind of a guy, not your own person, its pathetic. You have lost the core human experience, instead you are just a kind of guy. You never woke up to this bullshit ass world and found the non-corrupted version of you.

I think being around these people is an opportunity in someway, see evil for what it is kind of thing.

It's hard. Sometimes I just sort of dissociate, which is probably unhealthy.

i argue in my head with them while nodding and asking questions to see where they really stand. are they an actual nazi or just stupid?

and then if i get comfortable enough with them, i'll ask mildly probing questions that result in them confronting some of their contradictory beliefs. it's funny.

Don't listen to them and don't bother talking to them.

I've mastered the art of internalising my hatred of them so I don't go batshit on them

i don't, i just outwardly project an appearance or arch disdain for everything they're saying and try to stay in that for as long as possible

but eventually, inevitably, the yelling starts, followed soon by the usual "you should be shot in front of everyone you love"-style rhetoric

I just remember that in that moment, their words don't really matter, and my words don't really matter. What matters are the material conditions of the world. They can figuratively stamp their feet and throw a temper tantrum about "woke climate hoax peddlers" all they want. It doesn't change the fact that climate change is very real.

I save my words for other conversations where the other person has a more open mind.

I do not encounter them

I usually just don't react, repeat what they said back to them, and they ask if I'm R slur and then I repeat what they said again for confirmation. Usually they walk away. I don't have the energy to engage people at work on any level beyond telling them where stuff is.

I also wear a mask at work so usually they don't even bother talking because they assume I'm a blue haired woke lib.

My boss this morn said they recycle needles (i.e. sharps containers) so they can sell em to drug addicts.

Man needs some alone time with me in Minecraft, s2g.

idk, personally I'm pretty good at emotionally disconnecting myself from a situation I'm in. Like when customers yell at me at work, I never really get mad or frustrated or upset, because the way I process it, they're just yelling at a drone performing x task for y money. It's very easy for me to just go "Okay, would you like to get this done with now? Yes, yes--Sign here please. Right, I get it. It's not a big deal, just need you to sign the paper." Even while they're busy yelling at me over nothing lol

And so I think keeping cool when people are being racist or sexist or whatever around me is a similar situation. All of the "yikes" just stays internal and I usually disengage from whatever conversation but it just doesn't really get to me. In a similar way to customers yelling at the corporate drone wearing my skin, the racist is talking to a hypothetical fellow racist that they think I am. What do I care if they think I'm one of them? What's the benefit if I get into an argument with them?

Obviously there's a certain level of risk management involved with that part. Like if I'm not at work or anything and I don't feel like the other person could be a threat, I'll absolutely call them out. But I'm not going to argue with them. Classic chapo tactics with the hardcore chuds, never take them seriously and never look like I care more than they do. The point is to mock them, not Win The Debate

I was playing League the other day and I joined some random's discord server that they posted in lobby chat, which is something people often do to set up communication for the match. I saw multiple pepe profile pictures so I was immediately like "this probably isn't good" but I was not prepared for how bad it really was. It really took me back to Modern Warfare 2, I swear. They were throwing around every slur you can imagine, calling me and my buddy who had joined slurs. It was straight up harrassment, honestly no idea why they even posted the link. They didn't seem like they wanted us there. But I just let them keep going, and then when the match was over I was just like "you guys are the absolute worst" with an actual grin on my face and left. The whole thing was so surreal, I didn't know they even made kids like that anymore. Thought that model was recalled around 2012. So when faced with the most over-the-top verbal abuse and bigotry I've seen in a long time, I felt nothing but pure contempt and amusement. It just doesn't make me mad.

Idk if any of that is applicable to another person. But yeah, try focusing on just how fucking pathetic chuds are. Really channel your inner

Ignore what they say unless it's personally addressed to me or about me. It's like listening to birds chirping. Though that's unfair to birds, at least they sound nice.

I guess it's just exposure.
There's more of them than there are comrades or fellow travelers where I am so I just get used to hearing the worst talking points imaginable and got a feel both for knowing when someone might be receptive to my POV and also knowing how much to and not to extend.
Not really sure how to teach or explain it though.
I basically default to telling myself I'm entering "enemy territory" when going into the general local population is probably the best way I can explain it.

I don't be around CHUDs

Don't engage with them if possible. When someone says something provocative, they are looking for reactions, wanting to start arguments. Responding just encourages them.