That's very unfortunate. Up until recently this server has very stable and Lemmy itself is going through growing pains too but I'm sure it will get better and performances will improve as you've put it.
I'm glad you're willing to stick around. It does help to have a few alts though.
Well said about the linked tool.
Do you use any mobile clients or alternative front ends for Lemmy ? It can make the experience so much better.