That's fair, and well said. If you want to continue to shepherd the community with trust though, start taking actions that continue to build that trust. Don't repeat the history we literally just walked away from.
Please include the community in discussions, such as changing the lemmy instance, and laying out your reasoning. Give us a chance to add our two cents. For the love of all that you hold dear don't do it in a gated community like Discord, make it public and accessible.
I find petty protests to be a questionable response to that
Not sure how to take this one. At the end of the day moving to lemmy was a petty protest in itself. A lot of people signified they were happy to stay with Reddit - "majority wins" still fragments your community.