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Age range (lemmy.zip)
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[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

That's literally how the formula is intended to work, since any given age difference means less the older the two parties are (ie. a 40 year old married to a 50 year old is no big deal, but that same couple at 16 age 26 years old is creepy, and illegally so).

If your partner was 4.5 years outside of the formula range when you met (and assuming when you met is when you started dating...not some stupid gotcha like "we met at church when I was a teenager and they were a young child, and we didn't see each other romantically for another 15 years! Haha!") it's probably a situation where it was indeed eyebrow raising when you started dating.