I think you do transfer too much! Lots of animals have a mating ritual that involves overpowering a mating partner. It’s not pleasant to look at, but then neither is watching a chimp rip an unborn fawn out of a deer, while the deer is still alive. Nature is nature and there are lots of situations where there is direct violence between males and females as part of mating:

• Hyenas, where female hyenas are larger than males, necessitating them to submit to female dominance during mating.
• Many species of spiders and praying mantis where the female eats the male after mating.
• Antelopes, where males often overpower females before mating.
• Dolphins, where groups of males isolate females using herding techniques.
• Hermaphrodite slugs where one partner will eat the penis of the other partner to prevent it mating further afterwards.