Understanding oneself is a very difficult step, self-awareness and tracing the lines of our behaviours back through our memories.

But actually, actively doing something about changing those lines of thought, forcing a new way of thinking upon the neurons of our brains, that's the most difficult and most rewarding step. To face ourselves head on, and force a metamorphosis into who we truly wish to be, it's worth it.

Also, as an aside, you seem to be a wonderful father with the right mindset You might feel concerned you don't know what to do, but trust yourself :) you got this