Frankly this situation is really unfortunate and I don't have a good answer.
yeaa that's totally fair, this shit sucks
with weighing longterm pros vs cons personally I'd still try and convince the community to transfer over as:
- the risk for staying on lemmy.ml seems too high
- hitagi seems to be trying their best to fix this with no fault of their own
- moving would send a message that fucking with communities with illogical reasoning would not be in the devs best interests