That reminds me of how upset I am that Cluster B personality disorders are currently the internet's acceptable punching bags, NPD in particular. I'm extremely close with one person who has NPD, and on good terms with another who's adjacent to my friend circle. And with those two people, I don't see the psychotic monsters that people online scream about. I see two people in extreme pain and living in constant fear that they're not good enough, that people hate them for their weakness and failures, that they need to be better and do better and that they'll never be enough and no matter what they do the nagging, judging voice in their head will never ever ever shut the fuck up and leave them alone
This isn't to say that some people with NPD aren't extreme assholes. But it's not at all a 1 to 1 ratio. It's not "asshole personality disorder". Not all sociopaths are evil serial killers, not all people with BPD are scheming demons, and not all people with NPD are arrogant shitheads.
I want to effortpost about this someday, tbh. It deserves its own thread. Over the course of my own life, I've come to realize that almost every stereotype about other groups of people is just wrong. Trans people aren't at all as they exist in the popular imagination. Neither is ADHD, nor autism. I've found out about all three of those firsthand. And this is absolutely true for every other group of people.

