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[–] [email protected] 116 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Not a specifically bad instance, but everywhere I’ve worked has always had that guy who has a hundred irrelevant questions at the end of a meeting, holding up 10 or so people from actually getting on with work.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago (1 children)

After a couple of bad questions, I'll either excuse myself, suggest we carry on separately, or (ideally) ask to be sent a list, for me to ignore at my leisure.

Sorry Greg, we're not here to answer your dumbass questions, or indulge your hypothetical edge cases.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It’s always hypothetical rabbit holes 🙄

They think they’re like Doctor Strange trying to map out every conceivable future

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

... which somehow prepares you for EVERYTHING that doesn't happen, and nothing that actually does.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh wow, thank you. For some reason this statement hit me like a ton of bricks. I've got bad anxiety/worry issues and I tend to think about all the worst case scenarios. Everything feels like the end of the world to me, thanks persistent depression. But this put a lot into perspective for me. I'm going to use this statement as a tool when I feel myself spiraling with worry. Much appreciated!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I feel that overthinking due to anxiety is like running on a treadmill. You expend a ton of energy but you've not actually moved forward. Better to apply that energy to preventative measures or solutions. And if it is outside of your control? Well then just like the weather, you need to accept it.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If 1 person has a question, then chances are good most people have that same question but are too afraid to ask it in front of everyone.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Some people have questions because they just don't listen when information is given, or have no ability to think for themselves.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Wait, why's everyone talking about questions?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I think definitely moreso this

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago

Training classes in the military was the bane of my existence when I was in. Always people asking the dumbest questions ever.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago

I sit in business requirements meetings for enhancements to some software we use at work, and there’s a guy who feels the need to repeat everything everyone says in his own words (at least twice as many). The meetings used to be 30 mins but they had to extend them to an hour. And we have 2 a week.

Thanks to WFH it means I have 2 hours a week of guaranteed PlayStation time though, so I shouldn’t complain.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm the guy that needs to understand shit to move forward, so it's like 25% dumb questions, 25% insightful questions, 25% pretentious sounding questions and 25% jokes that give white collar people heart attacks.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Don't you think most people need to understand shit to move on? If you just ask urgent questions, then take time to digest the meeting and ask those insightful followups in a team chat, it filters out the 75% of the crap you were going to say.

Having a reputation as the guy who prolongs meetings with 25% dumb questions and 25% jokes is not a good thing.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean a lot of people in meetings have a good idea of what they want the scope of their involvement to be. My curiosity swamps any semblance of scope I might have. I've never actually gotten a reply in team chat. I don't think most people even know it exists. I did get used to sorting out who I needed to be talking to and just hit them up after the meeting, though.

The only time I prolong shit is when I really, really disagree with something. Typically that's an ethics issue.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Fair enough, I've been in those situations, that can be tough

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yep. That woman in the case where I work. And you can't roll your eyes in a meeting, even a Zoom meeting.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But Zoom meetings mean I can - and do - get to message coworkers and shit talk the offender while it's happening.

Pro tip: Make it a common practice after doing this to always make sure the last message sent at least starts with something innocuous in case you need to share your screen later so the preview in Teams shows doesn't say "Jesus Christ, Carla is such a..."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Eh, I just ignore her and switch to another window.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Great question Robert. Let's go ahead and parking lot that for the right time. Make sure you send that to us in your reply to the meeting notes. I don't want to lose track of it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

We'll circle back to that.