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[–] 71 points 1 day ago* (5 children)

This is the result of handing dating life off to the capitalist class that uses it to enrich itself. Go to a neighborhood potluck or volunteer somewhere to meet people without prejudice. If it doesn’t land you a date then at least you’ll have fun or do something good.

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  • [–] 4 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

    I don't see how this advice would help the OOP at all.

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  • [–] 2 points 17 hours ago (1 child)

    Happy cake day!

    Joining local, small scale gatherings without the explicit goal of getting a date does a few things. For one it makes you more sociable which will help you be attractive in the long run. For another it helps you meet people. For a third, you’ll have fun doing it. All those things develop you as a person which in the long run improve your odds of happiness, and it’s much easier to date a happy, well developed, sociable person than a miserable incel. And you’ll do it without Silicon Valley’s perverse incentives!

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  • My point isn't that the advice you gave was incorrect; it's that the person in the meme explicitly would not follow it. The entire joke is that they will never do what is necessary to get a relationship. It doesn't matter that it's a sound dating strategy; you're missing the point.

    The meme probably just ironic, but giving such tone deaf advice in a more realistic scenario would definitely come across as condescending. People with genuine issues usually know what they need to do; it's just that they can't bring themselves to do it. Telling them what they already know will make them feel bad and won't make them more likely to act.

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  • [–] 36 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    Same advice works for making friends as an adult.

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  • [–] 29 points 1 day ago

    Spoiler AlertIt’s exactly how you make friends. Don’t go out looking for a spouse, that’s off putting. Make friends first and see where that leads. Worst case is you end up with a friend group, which is an attractive quality by itself.

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