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[–] 6 points 8 hours ago (3 children)

Maybe the ambition should be to be loved?

I find that if you're just a person who does good things even when no one is watching (and without telling people about it), people and animals are naturally drawn to you

Be the person who holds doors for everyone. Stop to help people until it becomes natural. Ask the cashier how their day is going. Go to the shelter and cheer up some animals

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  • [–] 4 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

    also if someone refuses help, dont take it personally. and just listen. or move on.

    Like there are rescuers out there with no boundaries that do not hesitate make it all a mission about them being a nice person and their intentions. This is not empowering for the boundaries of the people they are attempting to 'help'.

    listening can be love too.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 hours ago (1 child)

    This is true. It's not really helping someone else if you don't respect their boundaries

    And some people will be super rude about it, and you just have to move on and put yourself out there again with the next person anyways

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  • [–] 3 points 6 hours ago

    yeah i just remind myself maybe the rudeness is a defence mechanism. Not meant for specifically me. Possibly the only way they can feel they will be listened to or defended. There are people out there who just will not respect that 'no' that very much have a hand in manufacturing this as a normalized response.

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