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Terms like "transgender" [T], trans-masculine [TM] or trans-feminine [TF] are equally as informative but not unpleasant and dysphoric as "male-to-female" and "female-to-male", which by many people are and will be viewed negatively.

Since posting and sexting is supposed to be about about fun and pleasure, I suggest changing the current rules to make space more inviting and accepting for different people. (:

Due to the mod request, I am personally fine with changing my gender tags ([F] (trans)) to [NB] for the time being and abstain from further posting as I'm principally opposed to refering to myself as "male to female" instead of "trans-feminine" or simply "transgender woman". There is no need to introduce each post with implication of being "half a man" or "formerly a man" and the like.

It's not that I am deeply offended or pretentious, but rather not taking pleasure from being grouped together with men [M] whenever I want to post something sexy.

P.S. I was otherwise very happy with my experience and enjoyed all the posts, comments and interactions (; <3

Cheers

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[–] 3 points 2 days ago (11 children)

A question to you and u/tits: Does that mean that trans woman after bottom surgery can or even should tag their posts [F] because they now have a vulva instead of a penis? Also, do you include trans men [FTM] in your filter, since they typically do not have a penis?

I don't mean to needle you, it just sound like what you want are the tags [penis] and [vulva], not anything to do with gender.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

    To elaborate a bit more, I also am only attracted to fem or at least androgynous people, so post surgery trans women sure, but not trans men. The tagging situation for that level of detail could get complicated easily. And is different for me than the other reply you got since they care about birth genitals and care about current ones.

    But yeah for me ideal tags would be the combination of (current) equipment and presentation. Even just that could get complex with couples' tags, but I think it would be worth it.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 days ago (8 children)

    I'm not interested in neogenitals, either looking at them or interacting with them.

    To put it impolitely, what I want from my porn (and the [F] filter) is sexy, breedable females. Any variety of MTF is not that. FTM is that, except maybe after phalloplasty, I don't know the details on that.

    I'm not going to claim to have an enlightened dick. It wants what it wants

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago (3 children)

    Why not put it politely?

    I respect your kinks, but I'm not sure a wide-ranging subreddit like gonewild is the best place to get your fix - even on the F tag.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 child)

    It can't be said politely because it's pure sexism concealed as a kink. Women can be attractive in so many ways that do not involve "breedability" but some people can't comprehend it - and it makes one wonder if they actually like women 😅

    Edit: I checked and it's a transphobic troll account made 2 days ago solely to keep posting these comments under my posts so there is no point engaging further as the issue has already been discussed.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

    Consider "breedable" to be imperfect shorthand that doesn't capture the entirety of sexual attraction, but provides a simple baseline for using the [F] tag.

    There's plenty of other tags to use, or !transgonewild@fedinsfw.app

    EDIT: In response to your edit, asking a question and getting an answer you don't like isn't transphobia, or trolling. I don't "keep" doing anything under your posts, and only engaged directly with you in this single post, after you engaged with me.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

    How would you put that politely?

    I respect your desire for it just be a kink or a fix. I think this community is bigger than just your preferences, however.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

    Would you like to also verify which women are fertile and breedable before they post porn? Should infertile men without both functional testicles be excluded from [M] tag?

    Trans bodies on hormones or post- op usually smell and feel to the touch like their cisgender counterparts. Apparently even some doctors can't differentiate genitals from neogenitals.

    Clearly fertility is not the main reason these tags exist. 😝 Yes I'm all for separate [T] gender tags but it doesn't have anything to do with fertility or breedability.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 days ago (2 children)

    I can't speak for everyone, though I suspect I'm the average viewer of the [F] filter. For me, it's 100% about breedability. Hormones and surgery can't change what matters. An infertile woman still has the equipment, even if some of it's faulty. No comment on [M], it's not my interest.

    I know this isn't what some people want to hear, but that's how sexual attraction works for me, and likely most viewers of the [F] tag. Sorry, but it is what it is.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    As a viewer of the F tag, I'm fairly certain you are wrong about most of "us".

    To me, what's attractive about a person or their post is the thought of what I might want to do with them and/or they with me. Those fantasies almost never feature getting someone pregnant. More likely they feature the opposite, actually. In general, I feel like most people are here for the process, not the potential result. ^^

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