Right? I'm a swe, happily partnered up, and the times I was single, easily partnered up. The problem isn't being a tech bro, the problem is being a fuckin wet noodle of a person. I've got the same hobbyist servers, the same half-finished coding projects I'll never get done, the same 40k models, the same flab. I just also stand for good things and act on those beliefs, and live every day demonstrating that if you're fash or fash-adjacent, you're not safe here, and if you're anti-those things then I'm great.