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[–] 5 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I guess my brain just doesn't work like that. My first reaction would be to just - believe it! And if I knew the person well enough, I might ask questions because I'm insatiably curious like that.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    Yeah. He absolutely had to help me by telling me how to live my life. And somehow assuming that he knows a lot about a subject he has never had to personally encounter before and that I have not come to think in the last few months of any of the things he conjured within 30 minutes.

    I mean, he was clearly motivated by a will to be helpful. But yeah, the result was just ridiculous. And I don't think I'll be bothering to spend time in his company all that much in the future. A will to help in order to get a good feeling for having helped is one thing, a will to help in order to make someone else's life better is another thing.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 days ago

    You didn't ask him to help you find out if you were trans, you were telling him because already knew! It's incredibly invalidating to tell a person something about yourself and them have them question it, like they know you better than you do.

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