100 agreed, except that Lemmy's "instance block" is so horribly misnamed as to arguably represent disinformation.

What "blocked" users can't do to reach you:

• Write posts in communities located directly on those instances

What the so-called "blocked" users can do:

• Write posts in every other community across the entire Threadiverse
• Write comments - even directly to you
• Tag you by name
• Send you DMs
• Both of which are allowed to trigger notifications, so they can effectively ping you whenever they want, and this can last for WEEKS and WEEKS unless you block every single alt that they have, which ofc is impossible since they can spin up new ones faster than you can block each one

i.e., "blocked" users have (far) more rights to speak to you than you have to not be spoken to. This is incel shit. I know that Lemmy was created when its devs were banned on Reddit, but at some point it would be nice if Lemmy were to grow up beyond those beginnings, and make something real that could last. Instead, most people nope right out, never come back, and bad-mouth us all here to anyone who will listen... and we can't really (successfully) argue against that bc they are correct: this place is toxic as hell, unless you expend considerable time & attention blocking each and every user account that engages in such behaviors.

Which I suppose is our own fault, those of us who did not quite realize the extent of the truth of what "become ungovernable" meant (in fairness, many of us joined Kbin rather than Lemmy, at least at first). And they (e.g. hexbear and hilariouschaos) do deserve a place to talk amongst themselves - that's not the part that I object to. I just wish, personally, that it would be opt-in, or at least have a viable means of opting-out.

But I guess we all still do have that choice: we can remain on Lemmy, or we can leave (e.g. switch to PieFed, its fork PyLova, or Mbin). Though for many, who want more content than the entire Threadiverse offers, even if that choice becomes less and less easy over time, they will remain on Reddit.

Which given the graphs shown in the webpage mentioned by OP, I believe is what is happening. People come here, check us out, then leave. The effect of the Intolerance Paradox is very very real.