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I tried Tinder for the first time and it's genuinely awful. (reddthat.com)
submitted 5 days ago* by to c/casualconversation@piefed.social
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It's so obviously designed primarily to get you to spend money on it, not to help you meet people. Some people have liked me, but despite daily swiping, I have no matches. It's clearly hiding them to get me to pay. On top of that, I had to verify my profile several times as well because I kept getting locked out of my account. It also deleted my bio because it thought I was sharing a social media handle (because how dare you chat to somebody outside of Tinder).

And before anyone calls me a fool for continuing to use it, I'm deleting my account right now lol.

When it comes to dating, nothing tops just going out and meeting people face to face without predatory apps acting as a "middleman".

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[–] 5 points 5 days ago* (5 children)

it's a lot different if you're attractive.

i get regular matches on most every dating app. and i have never paid for it. last time I turned off my Hinge I had over 100+ matches over about 9 months.\

that said, i only went on about 6 in person dates, because the vast majority of women who are interested in me are not compatible with me and i'm not looking for casual relationships.

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  • [–] 5 points 4 days ago (4 children)

    it's a lot different if you're attractive.

    I had over 100+ matches

    Found the best looking person on Lemmy.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 days ago* (3 children)

    I'm not best looking, I'm just decent looking.

    I just don't have shitty photos and I have an actual personality in my text.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 days ago

    I just don’t have shitty photos and I have an actual personality in my text.

    I don't know what you look like or how your personality is, but as a woman who's used dating apps many times before, I can confirm that this alone puts you ahead of the game.

    When I see a guy's profile and it says nothing but "ask me," it's an instant skip. Your profile is the space to advertise yourself; if a person's not going to put in the one-time effort to fill in a profile, how can I expect them to put in the sustained effort necessary for an on-going relationship?

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  • [–] 1 point 4 days ago (1 child)

    Sure sure Mr Ryan Reynolds, I believe you.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

    if I was that attractive i'd be getting 100s of matches per month.

    I get like 5 a week.

    but I'm sure if you were on it for 9 months and got 0 matches... you'd think it wasn't possible to get any.

    I know guys more attractive than me, who get way more matches than me. it's all about how physically and emotionally appealing you are. it's just that... most men are not either. and if you start telling them why, they lose their minds because they take pride in their unappealing characteristics, like their passion for Linux.

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