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[–] 43 points 1 day ago (7 children)

...do people often go to restaurants to mingle...?

If I'm going to a restaurant with people, my phone's gonna be in my pocket because people. If I'm going to a restaurant alone, I'm definitely bringing my phone, because I doubt the people at the next table want to talk to me. That's what bars are for.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 day ago (5 children)

    Good rules. My spouse and I have a pretty firm no phone rule when we are out to dinner. It seems rude to be there with someone and then just ignore them.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 day ago (4 children)

    I don't think I've ever formally discussed it with friends, I just remember reading somewhere that even just having a phone facedown on the table somewhere hurts conversation, so I make it a point to never bring it out. What others do is up to them.

    Although if they're texting/scrolling the entire time, I don't think we're gonna hang out again.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 day ago (3 children)

    Does face down phone hurt the convo? I do it as a deliberate statement (like "no phones right now"), otherwise it will vibrate in my pocket and disturb me. If it's on the table it feels better than pocket

    To me: Not in room > bag > face down on table > pocket > face up on table > in hand

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago

    On iOS I use Focus a lot, but for things like theaters, restaurants, etc. the standard Do Not Disturb is enough, and if you use your calendar a lot (like I do so I can tap events on CarPlay to navigate) it’ll give you the option to deactivate the Focus after the event ends, when leaving, etc.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago* (1 child)

    I read somewhere that it does. Just by virtue of having a phone visible makes people think about scrolling. Let's see if I can dig up where I read that...

    Edit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mind-brain-and-value/202103/the-psychology-of-the-face-down-phone

    Note it's psychology today, not the research itself. Throwing the link up while I dig further.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

    Wow that's a really cool read. I guess I'll try to find something else to do with my phone. Maybe hide it under a tissue box or something! Haha

    Edit: we made it a game where we find fun and creative places to hide our phones when having coffee with mates

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