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How do I...arch better? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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This is going to be really dumb, but please bear with me...

I know I'm supposed to arch my back during doggystyle. I do know that. And I do my best! I honestly try to put effort into it. But, it still just looks...kinda male-ish?
I can't really go face down, ass up comfortably. My lower back seems, honestly, flexible enough, however there's a problem around my shoulder area. It just seems like my shoulders won't let me go any lower? If that makes sense?

I've tried cat-cow pose, puppy pose, child's pose and a couple of other stretches, but I'm not really sure if it's even possible, to do what I'm trying to do.
This is clearly an exaggeration, but this is like...the ultimate goal 😆
The reason I'm making this post...this may be dumb, insensitive and maybe a bit misogynistic of me, but could this be just an anatomy difference? What I mean is, do cis women just have a different curve to their spine or is this just a flexibility thing? If I practice enough...can I achieve something even remotely similar to this?
And yes, I'm aware that not every cis women can do this. Please don't kill me 😭

This post is extremely dumb. I know that and I'm sorry. It's just that my curiosity is killing me. I've been wondering about this thing since I moved in with my bf and I felt like this might be a safe place to ask this kind of thing...

So...if I do enough yoga, can I make this work? Or is there some fundamental anatomical reason that this would be impossible for me? Thanks so much in advance ❤️

Edit: This is a direct link to the image. The original post seems to be broken

Edit2: This is a link to a (hopefully) non-NSFW image depicting the same thing. Sorry mods!

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[–] 2 points 3 days ago (1 child)

I’m not sure what equipment is involved exactly (and you don’t need to share), but there is a big difference in angles depending on which hole you’re entering. If the top is entering a vaginal canal, you’re going to need to arch your back quite a bit, which means stretching.

Daily stretches are best. As weird as it may feel practicing for this, you should do other daily stretches anyway and just incorporate this in.

Also, there’s a good chance, depending on your partner’s height relative to yours, that they are simply too low (or too high) to get the angle right. They might want to experiment with what they are kneeling on to make it easier for both of you.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 3 days ago

    Pre-SRS, but I'm aware that the angles change post-op. And I just. Can't. Fucking. Wait. It's so far into the future 😭

    As weird as it may feel practicing for this, you should do other daily stretches anyway and just incorporate this in.

    Lol
    Good idea tho! Thank youu, will do 🩷

    Also, there’s a good chance, depending on your partner’s height relative to yours, that they are simply too low (or too high) to get the angle right. They might want to experiment with what they are kneeling on to make it easier for both of you.

    He's only a couple of cm taller than me, but we've got the kneeling figured out.

    NSFW, TMII remember my first 6 months with my bf...we could only do one position and kneeling was hell for him, because he couldn't breathe properly (smoking) and we were also both nervous 😂. Looking back, that was just a really funny time period. We started trying new positions, very slowly, and seeing what worked and what didn't.
    We've made so much progress together since then. I'm really happy ❤️

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