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How to get rid of extremism (lemmy.world)
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Growing up and even now, I have a problem of going into extremes. In my early teens, I was so obsessed with religion that it started to become a problematic part for those around me. Now, I am kinda "anti-theist" (in secret though, I wanna be safe). I used to be very homophobic. When I discovered that I fall in love with a guy, I have became so scared. Now, I am comfortable with my bisexuality though but will be in rage if the word "gay" is used as a joke. I also rush to take a label for me that I am this, this and this, and get myself limited to that specific identity. Although I am now on my way to develop the acceptance of the fact that I can be wrong, I still feel that I have not gotten rid of my extremism. How to be a person who does not rush to take labels?

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[–] 8 points 1 day ago

Buddhism. Learning to take the middle path. And maybe just learning to care less. I can relate to the extremism, but I've also learned that it rarely ever works out, so it's more efficient and less effort to move myself to a reasoned, balanced view.

There's times when an opinion should be at one end of the spectrum, other times when being at one end robs you of having something better.

A good exercise is playing devils advocate with yourself to really challenge your views.

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