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Cumulative effects of ADHD burnout in middle age. (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
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I've always made up a person to fit in. Masking has taken a toll and I hate the person I've pretended to be. That person is boring, polished, and an over achiever. Since.I was punished severely on a daily basis at 4 years old and afterwards, my true self never was known to me. Only my self who could survive.

Where do we find our unmasked real self after reaching "the big one" burnout? When your braim stops working, you're no longer functional, and the person you made can no longer be sustained, what do you do?

I'm in my 40s and it's rough.

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[–] 2 points 7 hours ago (1 child)

There's nothing under the mask. Your face is for communication with others

You have to take off the mask, reshape it to communicate what you want to show the world, and accept it as your real face

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  • [–] 2 points 5 hours ago

    That's just another mask.

    Your real self is the you when you're not trying to be something else. You have to feel safe and be calm and then that's you. You could possibly alter it with effort, but not as easily as a mask.

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