One of the most upvoted active post on lemmy.world right now is this one:

https://lemmy.world/post/51264044

Why do you upvote this content? Is kuntuckygirl1 someone famous i should know about? This post doesn't look like anything special, anyone could have wrote it so why reposting and upvoting content from x and from people we don't know anything about?

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[–] 11 points 1 day ago (1 child)

I think when you start your response with the word “Wrong… and here’s why,” it seems that you are not open to a genuine discussion. Like iconoclast mentioned, it appears that you are looking for people to agree with your viewpoint and not have a genuine discussion.

Just a suggestion, but if you want people to engage in your question, you could acknowledge what they said first, and then ask your next point in the form of a question. “Wouldn’t that only increase visibility for X? Would it promote the fediverse more to copy the text directly here?”

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  • [+] [S] -6 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    You are a much better example of what you are describing. Instead of arguing that i'm not open to a genuine discussion bring in the question yourself if you don't agree with me. Like it or not, it is not irrelevant where the content originates from because it gives visibility and space to x and the users there.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    Sure, I’ll try to practice what I preach. What do you hope to get from this discussion?

    As an aside, I don’t disagree with you and am not really arguing any side. I recognized a behavior that anyone would have a blindspot for, and am trying to give friendly feedback. The phrases like “wrong” or “like it or not” are rigid and come off as not open for discussion. I try to use words like “appear” or “seem,” because my observation may be how I’m seeing it and not what you intend. I believe you that you may be trying to have a genuine discussion, but that’s not the tone of the verbiage.

    If I had something stuck to my back, I would want someone to point it out to me. I’m trying to do the thing I hope someone else would do for me. This might be a blindspot between your intent and your verbiage. You don’t have to listen to my advice. We can both believe what we want to believe and go separate ways.

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  • [–] [S] 0 points 9 hours ago

    Sure, I’ll try to practice what I preach. What do you hope to get from this discussion?

    By asking people why they keep upvoting and sharing content from a proprietary platform owned by a nazi perhaps i can understand better their reasoning and help them and encourage them to do better.

    The phrases like “wrong” or “like it or not” are rigid and come off as not open for discussion. I try to use words like “appear” or “seem,” because my observation may be how I’m seeing it and not what you intend. I believe you that you may be trying to have a genuine discussion, but that’s not the tone of the verbiage.

    There is nothing wrong in using "wrong" or "like it or not" in a discussion that is already open, if you are triggered by these word it sound like they are hurting your ego perhaps because you don't like to even assume the possibility that you are wrong. It's fine to assume that the following statement is wrong: "advertising does not give visibility to companies"

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