Yep, it's the usual question

We're very close, and we're also getting to that age where everyone's trying to settle in

I think she would be extremely sad if she stayed with me and if we didn't have kids

But she also says that our relationship is the best she's ever had and she only wants me

I hate work culture and I don't want to work until I'm 80 because I have kids, it's the biggest issue for me. I want to live as frugally as possible. In addition to that I have hobbies and I want my time spent on my hobbies and interests

I don't know what I'm looking for by posting this, feel free to reply with anything relevant

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[–] 4 points 1 month ago

You also have no clue how that kid will turn out which you need to take into consideration for as well when it comes to finances. Say you have a kid and they are special needs or have medical issues that need to be addressed. Thats not only financially draining, but also more time consuming as well. They also could be ok, but just fall into something bad and thats another decision you need to make because how long do you try to lead them to success before calling it quits? It's just a lot and if he really is that adamant about not having a kid, then he will most likely have more resentment as the years go on if the kid needs more attention then you even thought they needed to begin with.

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