Yep, it's the usual question

We're very close, and we're also getting to that age where everyone's trying to settle in

I think she would be extremely sad if she stayed with me and if we didn't have kids

But she also says that our relationship is the best she's ever had and she only wants me

I hate work culture and I don't want to work until I'm 80 because I have kids, it's the biggest issue for me. I want to live as frugally as possible. In addition to that I have hobbies and I want my time spent on my hobbies and interests

I don't know what I'm looking for by posting this, feel free to reply with anything relevant

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[–] 21 points 1 month ago (1 child)

Yeah, maybe have a deep talk amongst the two of you... "I think she ..." is probably not going to cut it, if you ask me. I'd make sure everyone knows exactly what the other person expects from life.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    And ABSOLUTELY make it clear that your opinion on children will NOT change, and if she's hoping it will over time then she is not only continuing the relationship with an ulterior motive, she is actively harming herself and setting herself up for issues down the line in the process.

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