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[โ€“] 78 points 2 months ago (9 children)

Gonna be hard to simply have a nice time when you get blindsided with a change of plans after you were probably very much looking forward to the date you thought was agreed to.

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  • [+] -18 points 2 months ago* (8 children)

    Then don't have a nice time. Go home. Say what you want or leave it. There is no reason to be mean.

    Ok so you're not gonna get laid boohoo, go watch the movie or eat the dinner or whatever it is you planned on doing anyway? Just relax and have the fun you were planning on anyway

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  • [โ€“] 12 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    Yeah I would probably just leave.

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  • [โ€“] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    A date is not just two people hanging out. It's two people meeting to see if they have mutual compatibility. It's too people meeting to see if they have romantic chemistry.

    People need companionship. And people have a right to seek out romantic partners. When you agree to go on a date, you are implicitly saying, "I realize I am under no obligation to sleep or form a relationship with this person. But I agree to at least give them a chance as a romantic partner."

    If you go into a date, or at least a meeting that you describe as date, and you're not actually willing to give the other person a chance? You're violating their romantic consent. You're violating their right to consent to participate in romantic situations.

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  • [โ€“] 6 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    If you go into a date, or at least a meeting that you describe as date, and you're not actually willing to give the other person a chance?

    That's a leap. Why wouldn't I be able to sus out if I'm compatible with someone while their friend is present?

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