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[–] 45 points 2 months ago (57 children)
  • [–] 16 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    only if we’re going dutch

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  • [–] 6 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    I had this happen a lifetime ago back when I was a teen still. I think it’s not that unusual to have this happen when you are young and new to dating. I wasn’t totally sure it was an official date and neither were they, so they brought a friend along. We all had a fun time hanging out!

    I think this reads as something someone new to the dating world would do. I think it felt natural because the nature of if it was even a date wasn’t something concrete. If we both were showing up with stronger romantic intentions it might have felt unnatural, but we were acquaintances already and this was more of a vibe check at the time.

    While neither of us were interested in pursuing things romantically, we did remain friends. Not that intentional romantic pursuit was even on the mind really.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    And that's the healthy response I'm advocating for!

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

    I think some of the other responses represent what I dislike so much about the vacuum of online discourse though. I feel there is often a lot more to any story than the details that just make it to a comment thread.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    It's just intentions. If I went with a friend to go to the beach and they bring me to the bowling alley it's not exactly what I was wanting to do.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 child)

    Why are we so obsessed with making sure everybody understands that bringing a friend when you meet an online stranger is wrong? And no one talking about the guys mean spirited attempt at "teaching her a lesson" instead of just... saying what the fuck his problem is?

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